Sex: Only Three Times a year!

This year she and her husband only three times in sexual relationships. Fatigue is the reason, home office was the afternoon. The problem is, why are others who are busy too can still have sex more often?

"I am a 40-year-old wife, the husband of 43 years. We've been married for 15 year and has two children. From a year ago, we very rarely have sex. Only three times we have sex for a year now, and it was very short.

We were both busy, so time to go home in the afternoon already exhausted. Wanted a break and play with children. Husband says no problem not having sex because of fatigue.

I once wondered whether our normal lives like this. I've been chatting with two friends in the office who was two years older than me and her husband are also older. The question is, why are they still often have sex with her husband? In fact he said that a week is not related, they had been longing, all the more her husband.

My friend did not believe it when my husband and I very rarely have sex because we were younger age. What makes me a little worried because my friend said, 'Do-do husband play outside. "Although my friend was joking, I got to thinking, what a husband so true.

Please explain, if the fair if the husband just wants to have sex three times in a year? Is it possible that husbands play outside like my friend said? Is fair if I did not want to have sex in a long time?

Are my husband and I need to get treatment? Which is considered normal, and my husband or my friend and her husband's? "

S.G., Malang

Couples context

Sexual life should always be viewed in the context of the couple. That is, do not just look at the sexual life of self-interest or couples only, but common interests as a couple. Therefore, the sexual life of couples do not have the same one with the sex lives of other couples.

If you compare your sex life with friends work together and it turned out differently, it's very fair. Various factors that affect your sex life and husband of course not the same as the factors that influence your friend and partner. But of course we can provide assessment, sexual life which is more reasonable.

Frequency of intercourse is influenced by several factors on both sides. First, the sexual drive. Second, other sexual functions. Third, the quality of previous sexual relationships. Fourth, the attraction of the couple.

If these factors support, frequency of sexual intercourse frequently. Conversely, if these factors inhibit, the frequency becomes rare.

The frequency of sexual relations you and your husband must have considered rare because only three times in a year. Certainly far different from your friends at the office. Thank God if it is desired along with her husband. The problem is, why it rarely happens that frequency?

Try it you see the four factors above. How do you and your husband's sex drive? What about the other sexual function in yourself and your husband, like vagina and erect penis perlendiran? How does the quality of previous sexual relationships, whether fun or not? How did your interest are physically and psychologically to the husband and vice versa?

Do not be left

Physical fatigue is one cause of decreased sexual drive and other sexual functions. However, if fatigue to cause a result in everyday life, there is a disturbance to yourself and your husband. This situation must not be permitted because it is a manifestation of physical or psychological disorder that exists.

Your concern about a husband who had sexual intercourse with another woman, I do not think too much. That possibility could happen. However, if he's susceptible to interference, which inhibits one of the above factors, the concern should not have happened.

Basically the agreement of husband and wife should be in the grip of sexual life. Of course, this agreement must be based on honesty and not to interfere with either party.

Good a deal you and your husband just home based on honesty and not cause trouble for you and him. If it is based on dishonesty, your concern is what happens.

Try to communicate better about your sex life and husband very rarely is. Find out why this happened. If it is true because it was always tired, need to know is there a disorder that causes fatigue is in addition to their daily work. These problems must be overcome in order to be better sexual function.